I’ll Make You Feel Powerful If You Make Me Feel Desired

I first heard these words spoken by Dr. Andrew Huberman on his Huberman Lab podcast. Although I don’t recall the exact topic, I know the episode was life changing. Until then, I had never encountered the concept of covert contracts.

According to Google, covert contracts are defined as “implicit or unspoken agreements within relationships where one person expects certain actions, behaviors, or outcomes from their partner without clear communication or mutual understanding.”

Realizing that I had engaged in covert contracts in past relationships was a revelation. This newfound awareness empowered me to take a hard look at my own accountability and assess my role in the failed dynamics of my past. It was truly empowering!

Moreover, I learned how to evaluate overt versus covert contracts with clarity—a game changer in its own right. This understanding has led me to embrace the notion that “if you make me feel desired, I’ll make you feel powerful,” which is precisely the dynamic I want to experience with the men I meet.

So tell me, how can I make you feel alive, powerful, and virile?